Reflecting on how medical transition and disability have altered my perception of the intersection of mind, body, and machine — (CW for graphic discussion of medical procedures) In November of 2021 I made four visits to the hospital to get iron infused directly into my blood. …

How mourning my father helped prepare me for life in a pandemic — In July my family marked the second anniversary of my father’s death. I drove down to San Diego with my daughter so we could spend a few days with my mother, in the home where I lived for much of my childhood. We lit candles, spoke words of memory, and…

How a few simple words can produce existential trauma for trans people and what you can do to help them. — Something like this happens to all of us at some point in our transition: “You have to give us more time. It’s very hard for us to adjust to this.” This from my mother-in-law, after over a year of me being in transition. When she deadnames or misgenders me, it…

A list of dumb things I think about doing with my testicles as a transgender woman. — We interrupt your regularly scheduled social commentary and Serious Discussion About Trans Equality to discuss something fundamentally silly: what to do with my testes after my orchiectomy. Being trans in a transphobic society isn’t always easy. We are at higher risk for a litany of terrible things: assault, rape, harassment…

I fell in love with another trans woman, and I’m still catching my breath. — My love is a thistle, tenacious and beautiful Her mysteries forever unfolding, through prismatic personas aspects of past traumas etched in her bones My love was a soldier and a peacemaker and a caretaker And she’ll regale you with stories of far off lands Music flows through her hands which I know are strong enough to stitch me…