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Professor of Informatics, feminist, witch, XR storyteller ADHD, neurodivergent, poly, lesbian, trans woman, mom, she/her

How mourning my father helped prepare me for life in a pandemic


How a few simple words can produce existential trauma for trans people and what you can do to help them.

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Addressing common concerns about allowing transgender authors to change their names on previously published work

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A list of dumb things I think about doing with my testicles as a transgender woman.

Photo by the author. “Henry Hoke’s Load of Balls”, as seen in: http://www.australianapublications.org.au/store/p63/The_Lost_Tools_of_Henry_Hoke_-_The_Thwarted_Genius_of_Australia%27s_Greatest_Unknown_Inventor.___A_Speculative_History_by_Mark_Thompson..html


I fell in love with another trans woman, and I’m still catching my breath.


People who push the idea that trans women are “socialized male” should walk a mile in my shoes.

“The Ghost of Genders Past” — an unintentional collaboration between me and my smartphone’s memory card.


Just by considering that you might be trans, you are doing something powerful and beautiful!

I got this tattoo years before I was ready to call myself trans. It allowed me space to talk about my gender questioning with other people, before I’d really figured out what I wanted.


Gender Transition

Notes from my first year in transition


Reflecting on the inexorability of my gender transition

A sequence of photos showing Tess at several key points in her transition.
A sequence of photos showing Tess at several key points in her transition.
Left to right: November 2016, a day before being hospitalized for pancreatitis; July 2018, the day my father died; March 2019, a few days after admitting that I was transitioning; July 2019, the first day of hormone replacement therapy; November 2019, four months on hormones; February 2020, seven months on hormones.


A poem for us older trans women

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