See what you want. Believe whatever you want.
None of it will change the daily reality of my life, or the lives of women like me. My existence isn’t an “ideology”. It’s just me living my life. My existence isn’t an argument, or an opinion. It’s just my undeniable reality. No amount of ignorant bullying from you is going to “convince” me that the material reality of my life is not what it is.
Here’s a fun metaphor: I have brown eyes. I have brown hair. You may hate that I am a person with brown eyes or brown hair. You may even disbelieve in the possibility that someone with brown eyes and brown hair exists But that doesn’t matter. It doesn’t change that for me, and the people around me, I have brown eyes and hair. Your opinion doesn’t change my reality.
People like you are like “flat earthers”, clinging to your provably wrong beliefs despite any and all evidence you are presented with. You are free to continue to believe in an absurd simplified fictional version of reality where men are men and women are women, and that is immutable and binary, and unchangeable. Clinging to an ignorant, inaccurate, simplistic understanding of the world, even when presented with evidence that contradicts it, is a perfectly human thing to do. But it doesn’t make the complex realities go away.
My daughter likes to put her fingers in her ears and shout when we are saying something she doesn’t want to hear (usually related to trying to get her to eat a diversity of healthy foods, lately.) This is how it feels to talk with you about this. You are a child, who only wants to eat candy for every meal, refusing to acknowledge that you are going to get a tummy ache if you don’t get some other sources of nutrition. But, like my daughter, no amount of tantrum throwing is going to change reality.
Trans people, nonbinary people, and intersex people will still be born. We will still need affirming care. We will still insist on the same measure of human dignity to which all people are entitled. Us doing so doesn’t take anything away from you.
Please recognize that you are the aggressor in this situation. You are the oppressor. You are the bigot. You are the bully. You are the powerful, safe, secure, majority. You are the hegemony.
You are the patriarchy.
